How many of us manage to go to bed without the least amount of contempt and outrage against anyone? Almost all of us have a list of people whom we hate along with the ones we love. If not a list, we will all still carry a memory of an incident which we never want to forgive and forget, and will always keep the contempt alive. I was no exception.
Forgiveness is a quality that many of us lack. Close your eyes and think for a while, is there any day in your life on which you have not erred? To err does not mean to hurt someone, even wasting water while brushing your teeth when our brothers and sisters have to walk miles to get a pot of water is a sin. How many of us have forgotten to return a friendly smile from a house maid or a known street hawker in a hurry? Is there anyone who has not backbited anything about their friends/relatives in lives? But when the same thing is done to us, we feel cry that we were backstabbed and we curse them and determine that we will never forgive them.
When we realise our sins, we ask forgiveness from the Almighty Allah. We want Him to forgive us even if we had done the worst of sins like forgetting the prayers, backbiting, disobedience to parents, etc. Let us see what Allah subhana wa ta’a says in the Quran about forgiveness:
“Be quick in the forgiveness from your Lord, and pardon (all) men – for Allah loves those who do good.”
[Surah ali Imran; 3:133-134]
To forgive does not mean one is weak. One has to be courageous enough to overcome his emotions in order to forgive a person.
“But indeed if any shows patience and forgives that would truly be an exercise of courageous will and resolution in the conduct of affairs.”
We have lots to learn from the life of our beloved Prophet Muhammed (peace be upon him) on forgiveness.
There was an old lady who used to throw rubbish in his way every day, on one occasion she did not throw rubbish in the street, so he decided to go and see what was the matter. She was ill in bed, to her amazement, the Messenger of Allah (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) came to see her and find out about her.
She accepted Islam.
This is the example of the man whom we claim to follow. Thumamah, as the chief of his tribe had killed many Muslims. On his travels, he was caught by the Muslim soldiers and was taken to the Prophet’s masjid and tied to one of the pillars. The Messenger of Allah (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) commanded his companions to untie him and give him the best food. The Messenger of God (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) was indeed a mercy for the worlds.
Trust me, life becomes amazingly easy when you leave off all the hatred and contempt that you have towards people. When you realise that what you do should only be to please the Almighty Allah Subhana wa ta’la, you will stop expecting people to be grateful to you. Your expectations fail you when you try to please the humans, instead serve the human kind to please Allah, you will reach the level of peace and happiness that never can be explained.
My attitude towards life has changed immensely, Alhamdhulillah after reading such articles on what Allah says about forgiveness in the Quran and how our beloved Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) has showed to be patient even in adverse situtations. The life our Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) contains a perfect lesson for the entire mankind, not restricted to Muslims alone.
PS: I was highly inspired to writed this after seeing a thread on this topic in an orkut community.