OK, first of all, this not anythin about the normal, oops, again an irony, a surprise in the context what anyone normally tends to think. May be a bunch of roses or a bag full of chocolates for a girl and uhh..(i’m really not sure about guys…)
The surprise that I’m talking is about people.. “People are always full of surprises”- i came across this phrase in an awesome novel called “Leaving Eden” where a girl with high dreams has a rule book and writes all that she learns from people. I was wondering about the validity of the statement (MBA has definitely taught me to use terms like this~!!) and i found that it holds 100% true.
You will never know when a person, who is so close to will act strange and weird. IT might not be strange for them and they might think they are ok. But u c urself left with a tinge of pain when things change with atht person…. Again, I would say its all because of one’s expectations. Till you don’t expect anything from the other person, you are safe. The moment you see you’re expectations are not fulfilled, ?????
Does that mean you should not trust people? How dumb of an idea. Now how to strike a balance???? Its one question which i keep pondering over many times. I tried digging deep into it n find a solution…
I strongly believe that a person’s success depends upon how strong he is in conquering the hearts of people. Hitler and Bush may be successful with respect to accomplishment of their objectives(??!!) You might see people being so obedient with you because you demand respect from them but when you turn your back, they are happy that they are relieved of you. Again, how can you measure your success? Will you be happy that you got what you wanted from them?
If I had been like that, I would never be, of course, I would have hated a thing like that. But I find to my surprise that people of that kind really do exist!!! So when you come across them, and you see yourself that you’re helpless, all you can do is to grit your teeth and say “How can people ever be like this?”
Right, those kinda people are happy in their own sense. They, according to their principles are right. So each and every individual is distinct. At times, you might feel you can predict the behaviour of a person and you may be right fully. But to your surprise, they might not be the way you thight them to be..
Now, what is the solution..??? You understand two things…
1. People are full of surprises
2. So don’t expect anything from them…
This, according to me, will strenghthen relationships and then YOU ARE THE REAL CONQUEROR!!!